You know that feeling when life sort of feels like it’s something that’s happening to you, instead of being something you’re consciously creating? Yeah. Me too.
As much as part of me doesn’t want to admit it, I’m staring down the barrel of 40, and I’ve just hit that classic moment that some might unkindly call a midlife crisis, or perhaps more kindly, just that awareness of a milestone and the need to be far more intentional with my daily life.
All the major boxes have been ticked at this point – I’m grateful to have a strong marriage, a lovely home, two children and a menagerie of animals I love more than life itself and a career that’s been built with love and energy – and still, there’s this quiet voice asking: but what do you want to do next?
I’ve been feeling more than a little lost for the past year or so. Rushing through life, caught up in the daily scramble of work meetings, commutes and kids activities, never really pausing to enjoy the moment or consider what’s next. I felt like the bigger picture was missing, somehow. I was super buddy, but was I always happy? Am I drifting through life or being intentional? Am I really choosing the right things for me?
What was needed was a plan. You may need one too. A Blueprint for where you are, and where you want to be – and directions for how to get there.
I sat down (with a coffee, of course. Caffeine and dry shampoo are still the two things that keep my life running – some things never change!) and started mapping out something that felt right – that felt like a purpose.
If you don’t know what to pursue in life right now, pursue yourself. Pursue becoming the healthiest, happiest, most healed, most present, most confident version of yourself. Then the right path will reveal itself.
It’s not some strict five-year plan or a floaty vision board fantasy, but rather a thoughtful, practical structure for living my life now, with a bit more direction, a bit more flow and (most importantly) a lot more joy.
Here’s how I created it—and how you can too.
What Is A Life Blueprint?
Think of it as the scaffolding for the life you actually want.
It helps you step back from the chaos of day-to-day life and ask: “What do I value? What do I want to feel? What do I want to build—not just for others, but for myself?”
I used nine key areas to guide mine:
1. Health & Wellness
2. Career & Purpose
3. Relationships & Social Life
4. Family & Parenting
5. Personal Growth & Learning
6. Finances & Wealth
7. Spirituality & Inner Peace
8. Home & Environment
9. Hobbies, Fun & Creativity
You can add or remove to suit your life stage—but having a framework makes it so much easier to get clarity.
Step One: Ask Yourself Honest Questions
For each area, I asked myself:
What’s going well?
What feels out of balance?
What do I really want here—if no one else’s opinion mattered?
Be specific. Be kind. Be honest. This is not for public consumption, and the best results will only come from being true to yourself.
For example, I realised that while I love my job, what lights me up is creating—not just managing. That little realisation changed everything about how I planned my time. Suddenly, I knew I had to actively manage my schedule to create pockets of time for learning, and for stepping back to look at the bigger picture.
There were other areas I needed to challenge too, like all the limiting beliefs, negative self-talk and scarcity mindset bullshit that has been a millstone around my neck for the past decade. It’s time to really tackle these and try my best to reshape them.
Step Two: Write a One-Line ‘Why’ For Each Area
This was the game changer for me. Change is hard and relying on willpower is proven not to work a lot of the time. The real power is understanding why the hell you’re doing what you’re doing in the first place. As a marketer and as a person, Simon Sinek’s ‘Start With Why’ has been a whole new way of thinking about motivation, and what it takes to stick to a plan.
Here are a few of mine:
Health: I want to feel strong and steady, not just survive the week.
Relationships: * I am worthy of friendships that feel easy and mutual.
Finance: I’m learning to make money choices that reflect care, not shame.
Having these written down gives you an anchor when things start to drift.
Step Three: Create Tiny Habit Loops That Actually Fit Your Life
No need to revolutionise your routines. Change actually comes from the small moments that make up the fabric of our days. Pick one habit per area and make it micro.
Mine look like:
Mindfulness: Every time I make a hot drink, get in some calming box breathing while the kettle boils
Finance: One email unsubscribe per week.
Fitness: Pack gym kit the night before and just show up, no excuses. A slow workout is better than no workout.
Keep it realistic, and track it visually if that helps (I created a cute printable tracker for this—pop me a DM if you want one).
Step Four: Reframe Your Negative Self-Talk
One of the most healing parts of creating a life blueprint was calling out my inner critic. That voice that says “you’re not doing enough” or “you’ll never change”? I see her now. I’ve named her Susan. Susan is trying to protect me, and I thank her for that. But she’s also keeping me stuck. And I’ve started replacing her with gentler truths.
If this resonates, try writing one new affirmation per area of your life. A favourite of mine:
“I do not need to earn rest”
Hopefully not to be abused with too much lying on the sofa, mainlining HobNobs!
Step Five: Turn Your Blueprint Into A Ritual
I’m reviewing mine at the start of each month. Not to judge—but to check in with myself and make sure things are all on track.
It’s become a ritual I genuinely look forward to. I light a candle, journal for 10 minutes, and ask:
* What do I need more of?
* What’s one thing I want to shift this month?
Creating a personal blueprint isn’t about fixing yourself. It’s about remembering who you are and living in a way that supports her. Let’s live fully and build gently – and most of all, let’s be kind to ourselves along the way.
You don’t need to have it all figured out—you just need to start somewhere.
Want To Create Your Own Easy Blueprint?
I’ve put together a free printable tracker and life plan worksheet you can use to get started—drop me a message or check the link in my bio to download it.
Let’s build the life we want. One small, intentional step at a time.
